Language influences people’s beliefs and decisions. Some sayings can make you more optimistic every day, but others can turn into weapons that turn around and strangle your own heart.
Language always appears in everyone’s life. No matter what we do, when we read, write, and communicate, whether we are unconsciously or actively receptive, all have a strong impact on our emotions and behavior. . Therefore, understanding how language works is also a way to help us have a more optimistic outlook on life.
Using positive language will boost your energy and help you dispel depression, improve your creativity, and think positively rather than falling victim to negative thoughts.
Here are some of the negative words that we often use in our lives and some alternative words to help us have more positive thinking.
1)”I CAN NOT DO IT”
When you say “I can’t,” you put yourself in the shoes of a loser, which means you are giving up and slowly losing your energy. This expression also implies that you are lowering yourself, making yourself useless, losing your optimism, like you failed when you started.
Instead, you should use the word: “Won’t”.
“I won’t,” as it is said that you are confident and have good control. It also shows you have to consult and consider everything before implementing.
2)”I MUST DO”
By saying “I have to do”, you easily lose the ability to make personal choices and fall victim to negative thoughts. It also makes you feel compelled to do what you are doing and lose the ability to control it easily.
On the contrary, use control words like: “Choose” or “want”.
Since everything is just a choice, you don’t have to “do”. Using the “choose do” or “want to do” expression will be much better and give you a more optimistic view of things.
At the same time “I choose to do” or “I want to do” also shows that you are a knowledgeable person, clearly grasping what you want on the path you are going.
“I should” is an expression that implies that you are quite shy and are not good at controlling problems. Everything has a double impact, right and wrong, “should” is the boundary between those two and when you stand on this line, you feel awkward, always doubting yourself whether you are doing the right thing. or not.
Getting into the habit of using the word “might” will help you to reinforce your beliefs and make decisions about things.
4)”ALWAYS” OR “NEVER”
When you say, “always” or “never,” you are clearly trying to prove your point and stick to your previous beliefs. Your goal now is to win, you ignore the essence, not bother to explore or come up with different solutions.
On the other hand, it also makes you become overbearing, distrustful of everything or conservative with outdated, long-term views that drain your inner positive energy as well as cause anxiety. stress.
Instead, using the words “sometimes” and “often”, to help you have an open and optimistic view of things, you will also accept exceptions and no longer tie yourself.